1.—–Does aging lessen or increase your wish for love?
2.—-Do you need more love from other people especially when you feel that you are declining?
3—– What is the reason that you feel you need more or less love? What causes that change to happen?
4—–What form does your wish for love take?
5—– Does the fact that you are weakening influence your wish or need for more love?
6—–Do you want more caring, reassurance and encouragement?
7—–Would that help you to adapt to the realization of aging and decline?
8—— Do you want to to be physically loved; to have more close physical contact, sexual contact, verbal contact?
How do you handle these wishes and feelings?
Do you feel lonely? Do you withdraw from others?
Does feeling less necessary influence a wish for more love?
Do you seek love and support when you feel this way?
Do you have energy to search for contact from others?
Do you try to gratify yourself by:
(a) sleeping, watching TV.
(b) eating, crying , reading.
(c ) talking about this with other people. Whom do you talk to?
(d) getting sick (headaches, falling).
(e) keeping busy, volunteering.
(f) remembering meaningful moments with people and things you have loved.
Can you tolerate not having these wishes to be loved met?